But with all that comes the conversations that make me nuts. Generally about some aspect of parenting about which I don’t agree. Rarely the conversations are “the only RIGHT way to do X is by doing Y” but more like “I handled X by doing Y”. I like those. If I don’t agree, it gives me time to examine my feelings. If I do, its one more tool for my parenting “tool box”.

And so comes a conversation from a few weeks ago (yes, old news now but I’ve been meaning to blog about it). E is rear-facing in her car seat. I often get questions about it and I’m able to spread some education about it. I tell people that the AAP recommends kids stay rear-facing up to the maximum weight/height for their seat. That CPSafety (a non-profit child safety organization) recommends the same. That toddlers are 60% less likely to be seriously injured in a crash if they remain rear-facing beyond the 1yr/20lbs minimum. The MSNBC article from 2005. And so on. Most people thank me for the information, ask where they can read more, etc. I’ve had follow-ups with a few of them over the phone, thanking me again for the info. Some people look at me like I’m weird but say nothing. When we were still in Washington, one parent told me “Oh. I won’t be doing that, though, because I think little toddlers look SOOOOOOO cute forward facing.” How in the world do you even respond to that?? I can think of quite a few reasons to forward-face a young toddler before they have to be turned that way but cuteness is NOT on the list!!!

Anyway, a few weeks ago, a middle-aged lady approached me in the grocery store parking lot. She let me explain my reasonings and then started yelling at me that no 2.5 year old should be rear-facing no matter how much safer it is. That it isn’t “fair” to the child. That other kids her age will make fun of her. That she will not learn to be a “real” toddler until she’s forward facing because she knows that only babies should be rear facing. And on and on. And on. Yelling the entire time. I was trying to load up my car quickly so I could escape from this wacko. I expected E to be frightened, but she was too caught up in eating her broccoli. LOL I tried to refute her but she was just going on and on. Partially, I was quite amused by her reasoning.

1) While I do aim to treat E in a fair way, it just doesn’t always happen.
2) Most of the other kids she knows her age are also RF. And none of them are yet making fun of each other.
3) She doesn’t think RF is only for babies. She’s still RF, so why would she think otherwise.
4) She is every bit a “real” toddler. Spend three hours with us and you’ll know that!!

In the end, though, I really want to know why she had such a visceral reaction.  She didn’t have young children, so I can’t see that it would have been a defensive reaction if she felt I thought she was a bad parent for doing otherwise.  She didn’t seem old enough to have grandchildren for the same reaction.  I made no judgments, only gave the facts.  I wasn’t the one to approach her, she approached me.  It was just a weird encounter.  One of several.  I seem to attract the weirdos.   Maybe I’ll blog about some of the other weird ones.