Shhh….

I’m hesitant to say the words out loud as it sounds so definite.  I’m starting to get a lot of questions, though, now that E will be 5 in the fall.  Sooooo….After much prayer and discussion, we’ve settled on homeschooling Elizabeth. Taking it on a year-by-year basis. I have some reservations about doing it, especially during deployments. I’m also confident, though, that if this is meant to be an every year thing, I’ll get through it.

She’s currently in a 3-day a week program.  They call it preschool but I would describe it more as a playschool.  They do very little that is actually academic, learning is done mostly through play, etc.  I wasn’t thrilled with the program when she started it but its gotten better over time, especially after she got moved into a different group with a much better teacher.  She enjoys it, it provides her with some distraction from missing Jim that is ever-present in our home and its given me some down time.  But come the fall, many of the kids will be moving into Junior Kindergarten at the public schools and she’ll be outgrowing the program.  So we plan to pull her out sometime next fall.  We may be moving a year sooner than we expected, so the timing would work out well.

We have some curriculum that we’re currently doing.  She loves math and wants to do it at least once a day.  We tried phonics in the fall and it was a disaster.  I pulled it out a few days ago and she has soaked it up.  We’ve worked through one handwriting book and will start the next one next week.  We are going to the Big Island in April, so I’m prepping a volcano unit.  We do a lot of lapbooks b/c we don’t need any set curriculum.  In the fall I plan to add a little more structure and formal curriculum but how much we do will really depend on if we’re moving early 2010 or not.

As for why…There are a lot of reasons.  But it boils down to this…Elizabeth will get lost in a regular public school classroom of 25+ students.  In large groups, she is quiet and observant.  She shines in small groups.  If I could find a school with 5-10 students in a class, we’d likely put her in it.  But that isn’t going to happen!  She would be the middle-of-the-road student who mostly does what she is asked, completes the minimum, doesn’t cause much disruption but never really comes out.   HSing her and getting involved with co-ops, enrichment classes, etc. where she’ll get the attention she needs in a setting that suits her personality.

We don’t intend to do it through high school though nothing is set, of course.

I have no idea what will happen with Ben or any other children. We’ll figure that out when the time comes.

In some ways, I’m sad about it. I’ve envisioned this time when I’d send her to school and I could do my grocery shopping, volunteer work, etc. during that time. And this little vision of driving her to school in the minivan and dropping her off. Volunteering at her school. Going in for parent-teacher conferences. I can’t deny all those ideas & visions I’ve had. But the more I pray about it, the more I come to terms with it all too.  And we’ll figure out some way to make some of those things, like volunteering, still happen.

So there it is.

3 Responses to “Shhh….”

  1. Jen says on :

    Hi Tricia. I can’t imagine anyone better qualified to HS their kids than you! I do hope that it works out to be enjoyable for both of you and that you post about it often. We are lucky to live in a small town with an excellent small public school. Since it’s kind of an artist’s community, the kids come from some unique backgrounds and the parents tend to be very involved. I am hopeful that we’ll still be here when Emma is school aged.

    Good luck!

  2. jen says on :

    Though i hs’d Kris during his 5th grade, it was hard. i think only because he was older and we butted heads alot! i also didn’t know much about it and wasn’t into the co-ops and such. So it sounds like you’ll do well with it. Especially with her being so young. N was painfully shy and wouldn’t participate in ANYTHING, not even talking to the teacher until the last week of the 2nd grade!!! E will thrive with you teaching her. :) You are an excellent Mom!!!

  3. Jess says on :

    I wish you all the best with it! Deidra would love to be homeschooled, but Andy isn’t on board with that idea. She’s had some struggles this year with some rules at her new school (I really think they’re too strict on the kids myself for their ages). I think if anything else happens this year, Andy and I are going to sit down and have a real heart to heart about next year. He really thinks she’d miss the social aspect at school. And he thinks I’m too busy with everything else going around to really give it my best. I do a preschool curriculum with my little ones though and I do it one-on-one, so I think if it came down to it, we could make it work. Anyway, I wish you all the best!

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