Things change in the blink of an eye. After the news on my step-dad, he started feeling bad shortly after that appointment. Two weeks after the one that pronounced him seemingly free of cancer, he had another scan. The chemo has stopped working. He’ll start a new one on Monday but this one has a good chance of some serious side effects. And only a 20% chance of helping him.
And so we’re probably looking at burying him before the end of the year. Their anniversary is in October and I really hope he can make it until then.
About 97% of pancreatic cancer patients are gone within 6 months and Gary is at almost seven months post-diagnosis. So he’s beaten the odds but I don’t think he can do it this time. Even if he does, over 99% are dead within five years.
He has a tendency to make me a bit crazy 
but he adores my mom with all his heart. He has a wonderful sense of family. And of living a simple life. He has a heart for God and truly a “Daniel” kind of man if anyone has done the Daniel study by beth Moore).
I don’t want my mommy to be a widow so young.
And so, today and each day, I’m thankful for family. And for each day my family is alive.
I could really stand to see my husband tonight. Feeling awfully lonely. If anyone is on IM tonight, I’d love a little company. AOL: tldb6 Yahoo: happygrl6 MSN: happygrl6@yahoo.com ICQ: 64206453
8 responses so far ↓
1 Kerry // Aug 3, 2007 at 7:29 pm
I’m sorry to hear your news Tricia. Cancer is just horrible. I’ll keep your dad in my prayers…if you’d do the same for mine.
2 Amy W // Aug 3, 2007 at 8:40 pm
Very sorry to hear the news about your step dad. And sorry that you are feeling so lonely. My Jim is gone too. I think the weekend nights are so much worse than the week day ones.
3 Jess // Aug 4, 2007 at 8:42 am
Aww, Tricia, I am so sorry to hear this. Your family is in my prayers. BIG HUGS! I wish I was closer to you…I’d come over personally and give you one and sit with you for awhile.
4 lisanne // Aug 4, 2007 at 11:56 am
OMG, Tricia. I am *so* sorry to hear about your stepfather. That must be completely devastating news. It looks like he might not get to meet your new little one, but I hope that’s not the case. I wish that I could be there to cheer you up a little bit. Know that I’m here whenever you need to talk. I don’t get online much anymore, but … please know that I’m here. I’m saying prayers.
5 Laura McIntyre // Aug 5, 2007 at 5:34 am
Im so sorry to hear about your stepfather, my thoughts are with you and your family
6 Jen // Aug 6, 2007 at 11:26 am
What sad news. You and your family are in my prayers… (that, and thanking G-d that my husband showered
)
Hugs… J
7 Jessica // Aug 15, 2007 at 12:23 pm
I’m so sorry I wasnt online to chat with you. I need to email you my cell number! I’m always around if you need me (just not online). I know you are going through a rough time now:(
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